FEEL the fear ... and do it anyway.

Fear.

What a pal. I just love it.

I know we all experience different fears in our lives and sometimes they can be very unmanageable, my goal today is to help you understand that fear really doesn't have to be scary at all.

One of the greatest things I have ever learned is to love fear. I have also discovered that when I love and embrace fear, God/the Universe loves me back and good things start happening!! I now think of my fear as a light, showing me where to go, rather than something that is going to keep me perpetually stuck.

Fear comes up (for me) mostly when I am embarking on some sort of change or entering any sort of uncertainty. It doesn't even have to be a big change, or a major uncertainty. It can be something as simple as leaving work and driving into downtown Toronto to meet up with my sisters. I use this example because I actually observed myself feeling fear when I was heading downtown last week to help my sisters move (and I had to laugh) I also observed myself feeling fear while heading to a friends birthday party this past weekend ...(and again, had to laugh) Obviously my fear around the two above noted situations totally caught my attention, I find it SO INTERESTING to peacefully observe my brain. Being a peaceful observer actually makes me feel giddy. It's super exciting stuff when you have the ability to observe and not place judgment on yourself (And we ALL have this ability!!!)

If I had acted on the fear from the two examples I gave above (a.k.a. listened to my ego) it would have driven me away from loving and amazing experiences for no valid reason. This is why I think it is so vital to start treating fear like a friend, a mean friend (maybe?) but a friend none the less. I used these simple examples to illustrate just how crazy our fears can really be and how my ego tries to ruin everything for me (Although I am absolutely convinced that if I send enough love and awareness to my ego, eventually it won't hold any power over me)

We can feel the fear and do it anyway. It's a choice.

Of course there are fears that are much more difficult to face than the examples I stated above, afterall, it's easy for me to know that both going to help my sisters and attending a party will not be scary experiences. I can trust in advance, in these situations, what I will only KNOW to be a fact in reverse quite easily.

But what if you feel you need to end an unhealthy relationship? or begin a new relationship? or quit a secure job? or change your lifestyle? What if you know you need to come out of the closet in some way, to expose your true self in order to live authentically? These kinds of situations would certainly bring up a lot of fear and it would be harder to trust in advance that the outcome could be better than you may expect it to be. BUT IT CAN BE BETTER and it WILL be better. When we stay in alignment with our HIGHEST self, the outcome is ALWAYS going to be better than you could ever imagine.

You can cultivate that trust by feeling the fear and DOING IT ANYWAY. Everyone has to start somewhere. I gained the power to face my fears simply BY FACING THEM.

It all started with facing the fear of my relationship ending, I thought I would die of a broken heart - literally, and now I have never been happier. If your gut feeling is pulling you in a certain direction but you are too scared to make that move, just pray and TRUST that whatever is on the other side of that fear, although it could initially be painful, is going to be for your greatest GOOD. TRUST THE PROCESS. Feel the fear and PLEASE do it anyway.

I can't think of anything worse than not living the life you were meant to live because you were too scared to move.

The fact that fear arises from our ego mind is something that is very important for me (and you) to remember. If our egos are trying to keep us stuck and they are the ones that produce the fear, why listen to them? Feel it, acknowledge it and say "Thank you, ego, for showing me what I need to do and where I need to go - thank you for helping me learn that my true self is much, much stronger than you"

Whatever it is you choose to say to your ego just make sure you feel the fear and do it anyway. Let's let our God centred, true selves run the show!!!

I read a quote one day that stuck with me from that point on and I don't even know who said it, but it read "God is here, now, guiding us, all we have to do is peacefully follow"

Amen.

Peacefully yours,

Kylie