The title of this blog post just popped into my head, on a day when I am not feeling particularly content, which tells me that a) I am relying on my own will and b) God always has a better plan in mind. I am going to write this blog to feel at peace. I know it.
The holiday season can be super triggering for people (myself included) It is packed with social gatherings, food, alcohol, sugar, shopping, you name it, it's around - any sort of stimulus that you can think of is present over the holiday season. The holidays are like life on steroids. I have never been someone who absolutely loves Christmas time, I've tried, but it just isn't authentic for me. To be honest, I find it to be rather exhausting. I am however, still very grateful for the opportunity to give and receive Love.
To remain peaceful around the holidays I believe that first and foremost it is important to remember why you are actually celebrating. Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, or any other cultural or religious holiday, what does it mean for you? For me, this time of year it is to celebrate the birth of Jesus, and his teachings of Love, kindness, compassion, faith and trust, just to name a few. It is a time to celebrate Love.
When I ground myself and remember my reasons, I am filled with joy and the desire to share that joy and love with my family and friends. It is particularly beneficial to step up my daily prayer and meditation practice when times are crazy busy and the holiday seasons seems overwhelming. Taking a few silent moments to yourself to connect with your Higher Power during family gatherings, or even if you're feeling lonely at home, will remind you that the Power of Love is within you and your Soul always knows what to do moving forward.
Lesson 48 from 'A Course in Miracles' teaches that 'there is nothing to fear' and tells us, as I stated above, that when fear is present, it is a sure sign that you are trusting in your own strength. If we can bring ourselves back to this awareness, it allows room for us to acknowledge God and let His strength take the place of our weakness.
When I get to this place of connectivity, I find it much easier to suit up and show up and to do the other things I need to do to ensure that I am taking the best care of myself that I possibly can during this time of year.
Which brings me to my next point, how we treat our bodies.
Gabrielle Bernstein shared a story in her "Finally Full" course about how she was at a party and cupcakes were being passed around, she politely declined and people were very confused as to why she wasn't eating a delicious cupcake. She simply stated that she loves herself too much to eat the cupcake. This really resonated with me. I believe that when we cultivate self-love and nurture our spiritual connection, it is harder and harder to justify eating things that we know are not the best for us. As someone who has struggled with eating issues all my life, I am finally at a place where I understand what it means to love myself too much to ingest food that is not good for my physical or emotional well being (side note: be kind yet unapologetic when people try to convince you to eat something you know you do not want to eat) Nourishing your body with foods that feel right for you during this time of year is a key factor to your peace of mind.
It is also so important to get enough rest. In terms of sleep and downtime. Sleep is a spiritual practice. I cannot stress that enough! When I am over tired (like I am today) it is easy for my brain to take fear and run with it, it is also easier to eat like shit! So it really is essential to make sure you prioritize sleep this holiday season. (and I vow to take my own advice!!)
I think it all boils down to being mindful and loving this holiday season, slow down to enjoy the moments with family and friends and remain present. Remembering who you are and the reason for the celebration. I am so grateful for the opportunity to share my thoughts with you, and I encourage you to take what resonates from this blog post and leave the rest :)
How are you planning on staying peaceful this holiday season? I would love to hear!!
Sending you all tons of love and light during this special time of year.
Blessings,
Kylie
Monday 22 December 2014
Friday 12 December 2014
Allow yourself to be guided.
I don't know about you guys, but I KNOW I am being guided. When I look back on my life, to days ago, weeks ago, months ago, even years ago ... everything has come together the way it was supposed to in order to make me exactly who I am today, in this moment.
Have you ever gone through a break up for example, and wondered why it was happening, only to look back a few months later and have it make perfect sense? I have. And I have similar experiences in all areas of my life, which is why I always say that 'faith is trusting in advance, what will only make sense in reverse'
Over the last couple of weeks I have been doing some intense soul searching and I am not going to lie, I have been REALLY uncomfortable about 80% of the time. This discomfort however, has absolutely no power over me due to the fact that I have complete and utter faith in God's plan for my life. (If the word 'God' trips you out, then feel free to call it the Universe, the Angels, Mother Nature, whatever you feel like, the key to peace is being connected to a 'Higher Power' - that is where the beauty comes from!)
A Course In Miracles says, "if you knew Who walks beside you on this path that you have chosen, fear would be impossible" and I could not agree more. I believe that we all have it in us to tap into this sense of inner knowing, to allow ourselves to be protected and guided and to ultimately be at peace no matter what is going on around us.
So, HOW do we get to this spot? For me, it's through a DAILY spiritual practice. Which is acknowledging and being grateful for God's presense in my life through prayer, listening for His guidance through meditation, discovering MY part through journaling and then taking the appropriate action in relation to what I've learned as a result of said prayer, meditation and journaling.
This is work is very simple but it is not easy, it requires the willingness to remain vigilant to your peace of mind, which can become exhausting!! Trust me, I've been there. There have been times when I resent the fact that I have to pray, meditate and journal everyday, so I stop, and I am QUICKLY reminded why I choose to live a spiritually centred life, it is absolutely in my best interest to nurture my connection with God on a daily basis. The alternative is suffering.
'Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional' - think about that. Why choose suffering?
We all capable of being at peace, we all capable of living from a place of love, love is our birthright. The power is within us, are you willing to take action?
This is my favourite morning prayer:
"God, I surrender this day to you.
Please use me for your Divine purposes.
I ask only that my heart be open to give love, and to recieve love.
May the rest unfold according to Your will"
Amen.
Love, Kylie
Have you ever gone through a break up for example, and wondered why it was happening, only to look back a few months later and have it make perfect sense? I have. And I have similar experiences in all areas of my life, which is why I always say that 'faith is trusting in advance, what will only make sense in reverse'
Over the last couple of weeks I have been doing some intense soul searching and I am not going to lie, I have been REALLY uncomfortable about 80% of the time. This discomfort however, has absolutely no power over me due to the fact that I have complete and utter faith in God's plan for my life. (If the word 'God' trips you out, then feel free to call it the Universe, the Angels, Mother Nature, whatever you feel like, the key to peace is being connected to a 'Higher Power' - that is where the beauty comes from!)
A Course In Miracles says, "if you knew Who walks beside you on this path that you have chosen, fear would be impossible" and I could not agree more. I believe that we all have it in us to tap into this sense of inner knowing, to allow ourselves to be protected and guided and to ultimately be at peace no matter what is going on around us.
So, HOW do we get to this spot? For me, it's through a DAILY spiritual practice. Which is acknowledging and being grateful for God's presense in my life through prayer, listening for His guidance through meditation, discovering MY part through journaling and then taking the appropriate action in relation to what I've learned as a result of said prayer, meditation and journaling.
This is work is very simple but it is not easy, it requires the willingness to remain vigilant to your peace of mind, which can become exhausting!! Trust me, I've been there. There have been times when I resent the fact that I have to pray, meditate and journal everyday, so I stop, and I am QUICKLY reminded why I choose to live a spiritually centred life, it is absolutely in my best interest to nurture my connection with God on a daily basis. The alternative is suffering.
'Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional' - think about that. Why choose suffering?
We all capable of being at peace, we all capable of living from a place of love, love is our birthright. The power is within us, are you willing to take action?
This is my favourite morning prayer:
"God, I surrender this day to you.
Please use me for your Divine purposes.
I ask only that my heart be open to give love, and to recieve love.
May the rest unfold according to Your will"
Amen.
Love, Kylie
Thursday 4 December 2014
How to stay spiritual when things don't go your way.
Let's be honest, anyone can live from a place of LOVE when things are going great. It doesn't take much effort to flow through life with unconditional acceptance and surrender when everything is going your way. It's when things are less than stellar that we are put to the test. It's at that time when we are called to practice what we preach in terms of our spirituality, to dig deep and figure out a way to move through life, with Grace and dignity and while causing the least amount of harm to ourselves in the process.
I was listening to Pastor Daniel Egan from New York City speak last weekend and he said that God never promised to take away pain, pain is STRUCTURED into life. I love that, it's actually structured into life. That makes me instantly feel better, doesn't it?? The pain that we all experience is the price we pay for this beautiful life. We ALL experience painful situations and we ALL experience feelings that are uncomfortable. Feelings are fickle, selfish and unpredictable, and most importantly, they are not facts. Painful situations and feelings both pass, so the question is, what can we do to move through adversity? How do we stay spiritual when things don't go our way?
My experience tells me that first and foremost, instead of meeting anger and pain with self-destructive thoughts and behaviours (as I have done in the past) it is when I am experiencing these feelings that I am called to LOVE myself MORE. This will look different for us all, but it's of the utmost importance to HONOUR yourself and LOVE yourself through the pain. For me, this means making sure I eat heathfully, exercise daily and get enough sleep. I also surround myself with people who uplift me and who are on a spiritual path that I admire. A helpful tool that I use to remind myself to do this, is to think of myself as a child. If "little Kylie" is hurting, I most certainly would not do anything to contribute to that hurt. I would nurture her and care for her. You get the point.
Secondly, practice deep breathing. As often as you need to. While I am moving through a difficult time in my life, my breath is one of my best friends. Practicing deep breathing allows me to connect to God, it allows me to ground myself back in the present moment, affirm my trust and carry on. I practice deep breathing morning, noon and night, whenever I feel overwhelmed or like I can't go on. Luckily for us, we take breathing with us everywhere we go, so this is a great tool to add to your tool kit (and it really helps!)
Last but certainly not least, stay connected. Staying connected to God and to the people that LOVE and support you through painful times is vital. The cornerstone of my spiritual practice is (obviously) my connection to God. My trust in God is what allows me to carry on, with the belief that everything is happening for my greatest good. God doesn't remove people from our lives, for example, to punish us. He does it to protect us. Staying connected to God through prayer, journaling and meditation is key to peace of mind.
Note: Try not to make any decisions when you're angry. Do what you need to do but don't make decisions from a place of emotion. I often find that I am not thinking clearly when I am irritated, or in any sort of pain, so it is important for me to sit back and allow things to happen, be a peaceful observer of my life and once I am feeling better, I can make an informed decision from a place of LOVE as to where I need to go or what I need to do moving forward.
Tie a knot at the end of the rope and HOLD ON. This too shall pass.
"With God, all things are possible"
Love, Kylie
I was listening to Pastor Daniel Egan from New York City speak last weekend and he said that God never promised to take away pain, pain is STRUCTURED into life. I love that, it's actually structured into life. That makes me instantly feel better, doesn't it?? The pain that we all experience is the price we pay for this beautiful life. We ALL experience painful situations and we ALL experience feelings that are uncomfortable. Feelings are fickle, selfish and unpredictable, and most importantly, they are not facts. Painful situations and feelings both pass, so the question is, what can we do to move through adversity? How do we stay spiritual when things don't go our way?
My experience tells me that first and foremost, instead of meeting anger and pain with self-destructive thoughts and behaviours (as I have done in the past) it is when I am experiencing these feelings that I am called to LOVE myself MORE. This will look different for us all, but it's of the utmost importance to HONOUR yourself and LOVE yourself through the pain. For me, this means making sure I eat heathfully, exercise daily and get enough sleep. I also surround myself with people who uplift me and who are on a spiritual path that I admire. A helpful tool that I use to remind myself to do this, is to think of myself as a child. If "little Kylie" is hurting, I most certainly would not do anything to contribute to that hurt. I would nurture her and care for her. You get the point.
Secondly, practice deep breathing. As often as you need to. While I am moving through a difficult time in my life, my breath is one of my best friends. Practicing deep breathing allows me to connect to God, it allows me to ground myself back in the present moment, affirm my trust and carry on. I practice deep breathing morning, noon and night, whenever I feel overwhelmed or like I can't go on. Luckily for us, we take breathing with us everywhere we go, so this is a great tool to add to your tool kit (and it really helps!)
Last but certainly not least, stay connected. Staying connected to God and to the people that LOVE and support you through painful times is vital. The cornerstone of my spiritual practice is (obviously) my connection to God. My trust in God is what allows me to carry on, with the belief that everything is happening for my greatest good. God doesn't remove people from our lives, for example, to punish us. He does it to protect us. Staying connected to God through prayer, journaling and meditation is key to peace of mind.
Note: Try not to make any decisions when you're angry. Do what you need to do but don't make decisions from a place of emotion. I often find that I am not thinking clearly when I am irritated, or in any sort of pain, so it is important for me to sit back and allow things to happen, be a peaceful observer of my life and once I am feeling better, I can make an informed decision from a place of LOVE as to where I need to go or what I need to do moving forward.
Tie a knot at the end of the rope and HOLD ON. This too shall pass.
"With God, all things are possible"
Love, Kylie
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